喜欢一个人很正常，看见她会有莫名的喜悦感，看见她可以让你一整天都有活力，有斗志。
可是，如果喜欢一个人，就不顾一切去告白，让她知道了，但她不喜欢你，这会否带来不便的负担给她呢？本来大家是朋友，但如果这么做了，可能连深一步了解的机会也没了。
所以，喜欢一个人没有错。但是否不顾她的感受，就跟着自己想做的去做了，是不是自私了一点？是否喜欢一个人，就是要在乎她，多过于自己？是不是一天过着一天，看着你，就够了？这样的日子，因该也不多了。
Monday 12 May 2014
Wednesday 7 May 2014
#12 Harsh Truth
Expectation kills.
The expectation I meant here is the expectation I put for myself.
In my mind, I picture a perfect guy with the perfect life. Surrounded by friends, a leader, positive attitude, a mentor, able to communicate effectively, financially stable, a guy who enjoy his time.
I want to be that guy. So what's stopping me?
Ughh, it seems that many of those qualities I do not possess now.
I bought 3 books from Borders, courtesy of voucher from gov. 1 on motivation, 1 on managing, and 1 on leadership. I liked reading on the leadership book, written by John C. Maxwell, combination of 3 books into 1, titled "Ultimate Leadership".
Reading that book is interesting, but it also constantly reminded that I am a worse at being a good leader, and the memories of my previous years did not help. Let me give you some of the quotes I read in the book:
"He who thinks he leads, but has no followers, is only taking a walk."
"Being in power is like being a lady. If you have to tell people you are, you aren't. "
The book also says something that leadership depends on the trust of the followers. When you start at a position, you have a certain amount of "coins" in the pocket, and each success you made put coins inside while failure takes the coins out. By the time you out of coin in the pocket, you are out as a leader too.
Another thing that bothers me is that it was so hard for me to mingle with some group of people. I don't know why, is it the topic they were discussing? Their personality? Or it was me?
I know I can be inert sometime, and I consider myself as introverts. But is this really the situation? Is this the answer to the isolation of mingling? Or should I change myself to be a more proactive person, talk to people even when I don't feel like to? Put on the smile on my face when I'm not really in the mood of smiling? Do all of these just to maintain the relationship power at my network?
I guess it all comes down to what type of person I want to be. And based on what I've written up there, to be the guy with the perfect life, it will be so difficult for me, and a very long work to progress. I wish that I had all the answers, the answers to jobs, answers to life, answers to financial, but life is usually works where you have to find it the hard way.
The expectation I meant here is the expectation I put for myself.
In my mind, I picture a perfect guy with the perfect life. Surrounded by friends, a leader, positive attitude, a mentor, able to communicate effectively, financially stable, a guy who enjoy his time.
I want to be that guy. So what's stopping me?
Ughh, it seems that many of those qualities I do not possess now.
I bought 3 books from Borders, courtesy of voucher from gov. 1 on motivation, 1 on managing, and 1 on leadership. I liked reading on the leadership book, written by John C. Maxwell, combination of 3 books into 1, titled "Ultimate Leadership".
Reading that book is interesting, but it also constantly reminded that I am a worse at being a good leader, and the memories of my previous years did not help. Let me give you some of the quotes I read in the book:
"He who thinks he leads, but has no followers, is only taking a walk."
"Being in power is like being a lady. If you have to tell people you are, you aren't. "
The book also says something that leadership depends on the trust of the followers. When you start at a position, you have a certain amount of "coins" in the pocket, and each success you made put coins inside while failure takes the coins out. By the time you out of coin in the pocket, you are out as a leader too.
Another thing that bothers me is that it was so hard for me to mingle with some group of people. I don't know why, is it the topic they were discussing? Their personality? Or it was me?
I know I can be inert sometime, and I consider myself as introverts. But is this really the situation? Is this the answer to the isolation of mingling? Or should I change myself to be a more proactive person, talk to people even when I don't feel like to? Put on the smile on my face when I'm not really in the mood of smiling? Do all of these just to maintain the relationship power at my network?
I guess it all comes down to what type of person I want to be. And based on what I've written up there, to be the guy with the perfect life, it will be so difficult for me, and a very long work to progress. I wish that I had all the answers, the answers to jobs, answers to life, answers to financial, but life is usually works where you have to find it the hard way.
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