Sunday 14 June 2015

#16 纠结

"看着电话"
老板:“威廉,你在祷告吗?在做什么?哈哈”
我:“在看电话啦!”
老板:“看什么?”
我:“看facebook啊,facebook 现在有功能可以看回以前的今天post过什么,看回以前做过什么傻事。。”
老板:“人要往前看,不要看以前了,以前已经过去了!”
我:“可是人不能忘本嘛,要是没有以前,就不会有现在的自己了。”


其实,是不是我自己还执着于以前,还不肯放开呢?



再遇見你 眼神輕輕交集
笑著 我已想不起 多少年過去
曾多努力 才能找回自己
直到漂泊的青春 已換幾次風景
你還是像過去一樣停在我心底
只是時間不容許再靠近
我還是像過去一樣 一個人彈琴
每當想起你 還是不離不棄 卻學會接受
人生有時候沒那麼幸運

如果我不曾認識你 不曾傷心
現在的我 不會愛上聽雨
數著落下的每一滴結晶
好像看見你在的身影
謝謝你來我生命裡 給我真心
儘管當時 我們都太年輕
那年一段未完成的愛情
讓我成為更好的自己
勇敢前行

我放開你 自己留在原地
你往更遠的地方直到回不去
你說的話 我一直都相信
只是 再也不是你 親自為我證明
你還是像過去一樣停在我心底
只是時間 不容許再靠近
我還是像過去一樣 一個人彈琴
每當想起你 還是不離不棄 卻學會接受
人生有時候沒那麼幸運

如果我不曾認識你 不曾傷心
現在的我 不會愛上聽雨
數著落下的每一滴結晶
好像看見你在的身影
謝謝你來我生命裡 給我真心
儘管當時 我們都太年輕
那年一段未完成的愛情
讓我成為更好的自己

如果我不曾認識你 不曾傷心
現在的我 不會愛上聽雨
數著落下的每一滴結晶
好像看見你在的身影
謝謝你來我生命裡 給我真心
儘管當時 我們都太年輕
讓我 成為更好的自己
勇敢前行

Sunday 8 March 2015

#15 下一步

今天是星期日,毕业了几个月,开始工作了4个月,几个星期六也工作了,开始迷糊了时间的去留。

At the starting at my job, I was a rookie, was interested in anything I was given opportunity to interact with. Was very lucky that my boss liked me, interested in the curiosity in me, looked high upon me.

But not every time was sunshine, there was some ups and downs. Most of the people in the office is not positive thinking, nor have positive influence.

Perhaps it was me, who have a different mindset with everyone, so it was hard to explain what i felt and my perspective, or so they said that some path are meant to taken alone.

I am an independent person, or at least I looked like one, but sometimes I also need guidance. I'm loosing my grip, It's very hard to keep motivating myself constantly. I can feel that my momentum is getting lower and lower.

What really motivates me? Perhaps is it curiosity? Time seems to slip through my hand with all the stress and petty jobs that there is not enough time for me to think through it.

I need some time, and some space, so that I have more time, and more space.


Monday 29 September 2014

#14 耳机 earphone

Earphones may be just an equipment to you, but it can be my saviour.

One of the most important element for me, undoubtedly is the "quiet" moment.

For someone who is introvert like me, we recharge our energy not by talking to people around us, but rather find a quiet place, spend time alone there doing whatever activities which we are comfortable with.

For me, as I am not really comfortable socializing with others, I have a lot of thinking in my head spinning all the time. Sometimes, you might see that I'm doing nothing, staring at a blank space for few minutes, most of the time I'm conversing with myself in my head, while sometimes I'm really just thinking of nothing and enjoying the peaceful thoughts.

However, in my family, it felt like most of them did not understand and comprehend the "quiet" moment that I need. I did not have a bedroom for myself, and my bedroom does not have a proper study table or chair to use. Hence, my daily activities are done in living room. I felt that I was constantly interrupted and being spied on every action I made, even though they did not really care what I'm doing.

There's really no use talking about it to them, because they will just find the excuses to counter my argument, sometimes it just felt that they say whatever just to win, which doesn't help at all.

In these desperate times, the most near "quiet" moment I have are the times when I put on my earphone. Play some music or songs I like, or even put on earphone for the sake of noise reduction, at that instance it can make me feel more peace, focus, or even energized. Sometimes it can also let me contact with inner self, with some deep thoughts and reflects on life.

Oh how I missed the times at university, where I have my own room, able to do whatever I want.

Monday 12 May 2014

#13 负担

喜欢一个人很正常,看见她会有莫名的喜悦感,看见她可以让你一整天都有活力,有斗志。

可是,如果喜欢一个人,就不顾一切去告白,让她知道了,但她不喜欢你,这会否带来不便的负担给她呢?本来大家是朋友,但如果这么做了,可能连深一步了解的机会也没了。

所以,喜欢一个人没有错。但是否不顾她的感受,就跟着自己想做的去做了,是不是自私了一点?是否喜欢一个人,就是要在乎她,多过于自己?是不是一天过着一天,看着你,就够了?这样的日子,因该也不多了。


Wednesday 7 May 2014

#12 Harsh Truth

Expectation kills.

The expectation I meant here is the expectation I put for myself.

In my mind, I picture a perfect guy with the perfect life. Surrounded by friends, a leader, positive attitude, a mentor, able to communicate effectively, financially stable, a guy who enjoy his time.

I want to be that guy. So what's stopping me?

Ughh, it seems that many of those qualities I do not possess now.

I bought 3 books from Borders, courtesy of voucher from gov. 1 on motivation, 1 on managing, and 1 on leadership. I liked reading on the leadership book, written by John C. Maxwell, combination of 3 books into 1, titled "Ultimate Leadership".

Reading that book is interesting, but it also constantly reminded that I am a worse at being a good leader, and the memories of my previous years did not help. Let me give you some of the quotes I read in the book:

"He who thinks he leads, but has no followers, is only taking a walk."

"Being in power is like being a lady. If you have to tell people you are, you aren't. "

The book also says something that leadership depends on the trust of the followers. When you start at a position, you have a certain amount of "coins" in the pocket, and each success you made put coins inside while failure takes the coins out. By the time you out of coin in the pocket, you are out as a leader too.

Another thing that bothers me is that it was so hard for me to mingle with some group of people. I don't know why, is it the topic they were discussing? Their personality? Or it was me?

I know I can be inert sometime, and I consider myself as introverts. But is this really the situation? Is this the answer to the isolation of mingling? Or should I change myself to be a more proactive person, talk to people even when I don't feel like to? Put on the smile on my face when I'm not really in the mood of smiling? Do all of these just to maintain the relationship power at my network?

I guess it all comes down to what type of person I want to be. And based on what I've written up there, to be the guy with the perfect life, it will be so difficult for me, and a very long work to progress. I wish that I had all the answers, the answers to jobs, answers to life, answers to financial, but life is usually works where you have to find it the hard way.

Monday 28 April 2014

#11 Love

"Am I gettting fat?"
Baby, you look just as stunning as the moment I first saw you, the moment you stole my heart.

"Do you love me?"
I love you, and I will love you more each and every day.

 "Which one is prettier? Me or your ex-girlfriend?"
Baby I love you, and the girl I love is the most beautiful girl in my life.

"Will you still love me when I'm old?"
I will love you until the day when the sun rises from the west.

"Did you miss me?"
I miss your eyes, your smile, your hair, your smell, the way you look at me, the moment I hold you tight. I miss you.

"Will you ever get tired of me?"
How can I ever get tired of you making me laugh, constantly lighten up my world? You had entered my life so much that it wouldn't be the same without you.

"Will you leave me for someone better than me?"
That person doesn't exist because you are the person who knows me the best.

Tuesday 15 April 2014

#10 Rival, best friend

Do you have this best friend, which hangs out with you, but you are always competing with? He may not be competing with you, but you think that he is just around your level that you can “win” him just a little bit?

This is a story about my friend from my hometown. I use “story” because it may not be true at all, but a little inspiration of mine pushes me to write this.

At primary school, we were normal friends. We hang out, we have fun, I have my best friend, he has his best friend. He seem to be quite popular.

At secondary school, we were assign to the same class. That’s how we become best friends. Back in the day in form one, we didn’t have anyone we know, so we stick together. We join the same club and society, we play the same online games. It was good times.

Then, I start to notice some differences. We were both a member of Boys’ Brigade, and we need to learn a music instrument. We both take up the same music instrument, but I learn faster than him. One day, our instructor scolded us because our progress is too slow, but I didn’t feel much guilty because I think the instructor wasn’t scolding me as I already learnt the part required. He ended up crying, it was the first time I saw him cry. Later the next year, he quits and join other society.

At academic studies, my result was always better than him, plus his personality somehow makes him a target to be mocked. Secondary school was brutal, students bully the weak, even teachers sometimes bully the weak. He sometimes was “attacked” by others, I sometimes feel sorry for him. But we would never lied to each other, we remain honest and treat each other truthfully.

At sports and computer games, he definitely did better than me. He run faster, he runs longer, he jumps far, he play sports, and he spends time longer to play online games. One sport that I know and he doesn’t is swim, but he is also learning it now.

Back in the day, I was naïve. My definition of winning was be better at academic, and this make me seems like a winner. Then, it all changes when I entered university.

When I entered university, I studied in Selangor, but he remains at Melaka. We still hang out one in a while when I back Melaka. As we spend time at different places, our interaction gets less by the day. But one day what he said really touches me, he said I was his best friend. This makes me feels guilty, as I didn’t think that I deserved to be his best friend as I keep neglecting him. Then, my academic results in university getting worst by the day, he seems to be catching up on his results. He has his own group of friends, and he could earn money using online games.

What about me? Sucks. Sucks at academic results, sucks at managing a club, sucks at managing myself, sucks at earning money, and still kind of sucks at sports. My definition of winning is not just about academic anymore, it changes to how well you manage your life, and he was definitely wining me.


His birthday just passed, and I will never forget this rival/best friend of mine. It reminded me that life is not about competing with others, but competing with your own values and beliefs. Only when you achieve something which validates your value and your beliefs, you can be a winner.